We all have times when we get stuck. Unlock your potential and get back on track.
All the theory, all the books, the podcasts on life coaching boils down to these two simple questions. The challenge of course is that both of these questions can have some complicated answers and the role of the life coach is to explore how and where you want to be and then together build a plan that will get you there.
Often it easy to get lost along the way. We start off with a clear sense of self, but as we are pulled in different directions, sway under different pressures our vision becomes muddled. We look around, look at what we have achieved, and feel confused, we look at what we’ve built and even wonder did we ever really want it ?
As an experienced and qualified life coach, therapist and career’s advisor I offer the time and space where together we can cut through the fog and the confusion and work out what the life you want to be living looks like.
Life coaching works best when you have a clear idea of what you want and what makes you happy but equally a clear sense of what you don’t want. This process is about encouraging a dialogue within yourself to ensure the goals you set are genuine and are in synch with your values and how you want to live your life. Our opening sessions together will normally be focused on answering the following questions:
What we want, just as who we are, is often intricately tied up with what other people wanted of us, and that can be figures from the past such as our parents, as well as people in the present. Difficulties arise however if these two paths have diverged. Untangling these motivations, and finding a direction that works for you is vital if you want coaching to succeed.
Achieving Your Goals
It will be unusual if this is there first time you will have thought of this problem, indeed you may have tried to solve it many times before, so how will this time be different? What is a life coach going to do that you yourself haven’t tried?
A life coach can offer a different perspective and can help you look at and explore why you feel stuck. Often we lack motivation if the goal set in inauthentic to what we actually want, or perhaps it was to unrealistic, or not specific enough, or any number of reasons. An integral part of this process is promoting self-inquiry by exploring times we were successful and times we weren’t. What a life coach does is to take these obstacles as a starting point of our work together.
It’s easy to lose focus both in our lives and even within coaching; what starts off a clear vision perhaps gets blurred in the details or conflicting motivations. The GROW Model is a four-step framework that can give you a clearer way to look at this process.
Work Life Self Balance
We can all let work dominate our lives and sometimes it can be easier to see the gains than the losses. We are seduced by the holidays, the cars, the lifestyle and miss out on those simple moments with your loved ones, reconnecting with a friend over a few drinks, or going for a walk in the evening.
Or you might feel exhausted, on the verge of burn-out and are trying to carve out sometime for yourself, getting some space to think about who you are and where do your wishes fit into this picture.
At one level we will know instinctively how to solve many problems. However when it comes down to it what we say we want and what we actually want may be to different things. We may say we want to spend my time with the family, but we prefer being at work, we may say we want a simpler life, but actually we thrive on the drama.
Together we can talk honestly about where you want to be and why you want to be there and and create a plan of action to get you there.
Please contact me if you have any questions or would like to arrange an initial consultation.
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